1st Tri (0-3 Months)

mwiplogobg4This is the beginning of a journey that has the potential to change the outlook of your like for ever. Read other men’s experiences and share yours.

Things to expect!

0-8 weeks

Your wives breasts are likely to become fuller and extremely sensitive; therefore you may want to be very careful when handling.
Morning sickness usually starts around week 6. This is where she will begin to have nausea throughout the day and may even throw up in the mornings. She will probably go off certain foods so make sure you stock up on the foods that make her feel better. She may also become very sensitive to certain smells that may trigger of the morning sickness, so you may not be able to cook smelly foods or even wear aftershave for a few weeks.

9-12 weeks

The need to urinate will start to increase during this period, so if you’re a light sleeper expect disturbance throughout the night due to her visits to the toilet.
If experiencing morning sickness, she may not have much energy to do anything, so if possible help her by taking over some household chores and also helping cook the meals.


87 Responses to “1st Tri (0-3 Months)”

  1. Fred on January 28th, 2009 at 11:04 pm

    Week 1:
    I found out that my wife was pregnant this week and I was over the moon. Despite it being this very early in our marriage to have children people say, I am happy

  2. Fred on January 28th, 2009 at 11:06 pm

    Week 3
    I am not sure what I have signed up too as my wife has had a bad case of morning sickness and I am doing everything. I mean it I love my wife but it has been very hard work.

  3. Fred on January 31st, 2009 at 1:18 pm

    week 11
    I am just trying to remember the different feelings that I felt during this time. I can tell it was very hard. My wife cannot do anything apart from eat and it is a shock. As we recently got married I did not expect to any thing like cooking, cleaning, shopping on my own for a while.
    She is a little demanding and has unusual cravings. Anything she see’s she wants.
    Help!

  4. Malcolm on January 31st, 2009 at 1:28 pm

    Week 10
    I know exactly what you mean, my wife dreamt that she eating Mc Donald’s and when she woke at 2:30am demanding we go the drive through. Once I heard what she wanted, I acted as if I was still sleeping and ignored her for the rest of the night. When all we woke up in the morning I said her I had a dream she was asking us to look for a 24 hour drive through and she did not look amused.

  5. Nathan on March 29th, 2009 at 4:20 pm

    I found out that my fiancee is pregnant this week, i’m extremely excited yet scared to death aswell i’m unsure what to expect, I keep telling her that everything will be alright, but i’m not sure if i’m trying to convince her or me????

  6. Timothy on March 30th, 2009 at 9:41 pm

    I know exactly what you mean Nathan. I was constantly telling my wife that it would be OK and she kept saying she knows and its OK and started to reassure me. I was genuinely afraid of what was coming. It is not as bad as I thought

  7. scott on April 7th, 2009 at 6:37 am

    good work, guys!
    a much better read!
    i’m looking forward to nine months of good reading.

  8. OMG We're Pregnant on May 17th, 2009 at 9:43 pm

    Nathan - that’s what i kept saying to mine, she nearly bit my head off though…. hormones???

  9. Chappy on August 5th, 2009 at 9:07 am

    My wife and I have been married about 18 months and she is now 5 weeks pregnant. Although we were planning on trying next year anyway, it is still a bit of a shock to the system! I thought I would be more excited, but I’m struggling to get over the whole “my life is about to change” feeling. I know it’s s selfish feeling, but my wife actually feels the same at the moment! There is a small element of excitement, but for the most part it’s the dread! (and the realisation that my plan to buy a Porsche just evaporated!!)

    Are the other expectant dads out there in the same boat?? Or are there recent dads out there that felt the same way?? Did your feelings change??

  10. Justice on August 15th, 2009 at 1:35 am

    We felt exactly the same. We was not planning to have children until about 3 years time as we just got married. We was not planning to buy a Porsche but there were other things we had in mind like to buy a new home and travel a little before we had a child but a few of our planes changed we had to rethink our 5 year plan.

    Unfortunately the feelings do not really go away you just tend to forget about it. As we have had a Baby Boy who is the Joy of our world but from time to time I wonder if we had stuck to our plan how different it would be. I guess you learn to manage with the New addition to the family as your life will really does change.
    As a New Dad I can only liken it to adventure that you have only heard about and not experienced. On this Journey not many men have survived it, some men have left their marriages because of the pressure, Some have affairs, some become a new person and have a new positive perspective on life and Some realize that having a child is a gift from God and is very privileged to have a child.

    IMy experience is all positive and the positive prospective and attitude is over ppowering the dread feeling that comes back from time to time.

  11. Steve on September 15th, 2009 at 11:35 pm

    My wife and I are in the process of trying. I think this month it happened. We are only 2 weeks after ovulation but she is a wreck because she wants it so bad. I am reading your comments and part of me cannot wait to feel all those feelings. I think she is going to be crazy. We will find out. This website is great I am learning a lot before it happens. Thanks for your input.

  12. Chris on September 26th, 2009 at 10:06 pm

    My wife took 2 tests on thursday, both positive. Not planned at all, I’m over the moon, but my head is spinning!

    I’m trying to get my head around it, I just don’t know where to start!

  13. Shevy on November 6th, 2009 at 4:39 pm

    Lost my job on Monday and wife had 4 positive tests on Wednesday. Happy days…..!

  14. DorkNuts on November 16th, 2009 at 10:12 am

    My wife is 8 weeks pregnant and I am worried about her having a misscarriage because it happened once before. I am just nervously awaiting the 10 week doctor appointment to hear that hopefully everything is good this time. She has all the symptoms like nausea, sensitivty to smells, breast sorenesss, food dislikes that werrent there before, so I am pretty sure we are still pregnant. Im just trying not to let my worried thoughts affect her.

  15. DorkNuts on December 7th, 2009 at 3:26 am

    Sometimes my wife makes a poopie in the bed. Many times I have woken up with this doodiesickle stuck to my lower back. What can i do?

  16. cardhappy on December 11th, 2009 at 7:24 pm

    my girlfriend has changed (week 9), shes demandiing, complaining and only talks about the baby….its becoming a nightmare - i hope when i can see a bump i will be more considerate but right now its a pain in the butt!

    found many sites which are too non male sympathetic, finally!

  17. Matt on December 12th, 2009 at 8:04 am

    Good Morning!!! http://www.mywifeispregnant.co.uk is one of the most outstanding resourceful websites of its kind. I take advantage of reading it every day. All the best.

  18. Mat on January 2nd, 2010 at 12:36 am

    Just found out this week that my wife is pregnant - what a Christmas present!! It’s great news, but I’m also a little terrified as I’ve read so much stuff online about miscarriages and that would just be the most awful thing ever.

    In addition, although we’re largely keeping it under wraps at the moment, I just want to scream at every passer-by I see, “I’M GOING TO BE A DADDY!!!!!!!!!!”

    Exciting times!!

  19. GLG on January 4th, 2010 at 3:02 pm

    Thank You for this post. I was wondering if its ok for me to print this and post it in our newspaper.

  20. Dan on January 17th, 2010 at 12:59 pm

    “IM GONNA BE A DADDY, IM GONNA BE A DADDY, IM GANNA BE A DADDY” sorry i had to tell someone

  21. Tim on January 29th, 2010 at 3:55 pm

    my wife missed her period and took two tests yesterday which were both positive. She just started a new job and it wasn’t planned so apart from being a bit worried about those issues, all feels quite good. We’ve had a good four years to ourselves and it feels about right. I thought I would be much more excited than I am (like Dan above), but I feel a bit numb to be honest. I think I need the reality of that bump to kickstart me. Did you guys tell your close family about it straight away, or did you wait for the blood test?

  22. Jim on February 4th, 2010 at 1:16 pm

    Hi Guys - I need some feedback please. My girlfriend is pregnant. Completely unexpected and definitely a surprise. I am scarred shitless. We love each other very much but have a “volatile” relationship. She is very stubborn (as am I) but she is also an only child (I come from a family of four kids). She seems to think everything should go her way and if she doesn’t like what I am saying, she simply switches off.

    When we found out she was pregnant - I asked her if she was ready for this (I am still unsure on whether I am ready for it). She has just started her career, we are not settled etc. At the time she said that she didn’t care about her career - having a baby was more important to her.

    3 months in and she turns around and has decided (without discussing it with me) that she is going to take 6 months off and then go back to full time work. I was very upset for a number of reasons:

    1) It wasn’t about us and our family - it was just about what she wanted.
    2) She has down a complete 180 on what she said going into this
    3) She is working for purely selfish reasons - I make enough to support both of us, we will not be ANY better off financially (childcare will wipe out what she makes)
    4) MOST importantly - I think the baby suffers. I already work big hours…. So that my family does not have to get short changed. I don’t believe in a baby growing up spending more time with strangers than its family (if it is not necessary).

    When I tried to explain this she just got really mad and said that she wouldn’t talk about it. My concern is that she struggles to keep up with daily stuff even now without a baby. She gets home late, exhausted etc. With the added variable of a baby I just don’t see how it can work. Our house is not tidy enough for a baby environment.

    I am scared that the baby and I are going to get the short straws. Instead of getting home after a long day (I work more than average hours) and being able to enjoy time with my partner and baby, I am going to have to help prepare dinner, help with the housework, and then try and find time to spend with the baby.

    She says she will not be a stay at home mum, doing my cleaning and cooking (typical feminist) and I am not asking that. I want her to work part time, but this means she want be able to do what she wants (”PR is a FULL time job”).

    Am I out of line here? I get that she has career goals…. and it shouldn’t be just about money- But I struggle to see how everyone else loses out massively just so that she gets to do the impossible. I can see stress and tension mounting to an explosion point…. I am also really angry because I asked her about this right at the beginning. I wanted to end this and wait until we were both more ready, in terms of having a more settled relationship and also further advanced in where we wanted to be in life.

    Thoughts / Feedback / Advice - PLEASE!

  23. noname on February 8th, 2010 at 4:28 pm

    Just found out my wife is expecting again, we had a miscarriage with our first attempt last june. (11 weeks) but im taking this one day at a time, To everyone - try not to read too much about the bad things in pregnacy it just does your head in… im gonna stay positive about this one : )

  24. www.mywifeispregnant.co.uk on February 16th, 2010 at 12:56 pm

    Congratulations. Jim
    For majority of men including my self it was unexpected and we were scared as we was not sure what to expect.

    As when couples find out about an addition to the family it normally throws a spanner in the works as you can guarantee change is coming and it is like setting in the ocean on a small boat and seeing a huge wave coming your way. You know it is going to effect you in some way and even have the ability to knock out of the boat (or relationship) as you have seen and heard it and heard of it happening to others.

    Allot things run through your mind and you probably have allot of predictions like “my life is over and no more freedom” however as the wave gets closer you realise that you have the resources (instinctive nature) to handle it and you survive and then you do it all again : )

    As emotions are high I suggest you allow things to cool and then see if you can both communicate what you both feeling.

    What me and my wife done was tell one another how we were feeling and did not comment on what had heard until a few days later, this stopped us being defensive and selfish. We then presented what we had heard and tried to show understanding to one another.

    It worked and we got through 10 months of pregnancy and it was peaceful (no nagging). After 3 months of our sons birth, my wife decided to go and study to be a teacher (PGCE-Masters) , which is an extensive course/work placement that takes over your life :( : [ I was furious as I own my business , I gave her the option to work with me on a part time basis she refused and started working/studying and off our child went to the nannies (mother in law). Now I could of stumped my feet and kicked a fuss, but I knew and was hoping that her mother instinct would take over at some point and she would want to nurse our son at least for 12 months which I believe is every mothers right no matter what they were doing pre pregnancy (my wife also worked in PR/Marketing and was used to a fast past life style ).

    After 2 months of doing her training she realised that she could not do it, as she is someone who takes things head on, manages and executes well (not during pregnancy). She realised that our son was missing out on bonding and developing time and she was always tired (I could have told her this) . I even encouraged her to continue, (I know, how insane of me) I helped with assignments, feed and put the baby to sleep days at a time, I was even up almost every night helping with lesson plans. I wanted to show her I was not trying to make her a house wife and I would support her dream. She seemed liberated by my support and shared with me her fears of just being a stay at home mum (nothing wrong that).

    I put a plan together that worked with the three of us.

    She worked part time Monday and Tuesday (after 7mnts), which I insisted on, as it gave her the opportunity to a have a break from our child and allowed her to do something that develops her as a person.

    I’m sure you both will come to the best decision for you’re new family

    Hope this helps : )

  25. Simon on February 16th, 2010 at 1:32 pm

    @ Tim.

    I did not tell anyone for 3 months, however it is not because I was not sure if the child was mine. Hope all goes well.

  26. www.mywifeispregnant.co.uk on February 16th, 2010 at 1:34 pm

    Congratulations to all the Dads to be.

  27. Craig on March 6th, 2010 at 1:16 pm

    We found out last weekend that she is pregnant and we are both very happy…but equally terrified

  28. Danno in Dubai on March 14th, 2010 at 7:18 pm

    Thankyou for this website lads

    I have just found my wife is pregnant. I live in Dubai with lots of traveling around the middle east. My biggest worry is that I am just making ends meet with just the two of us alone, let alone with another little one on the way!

    I am super excited and definitely see it as a gift! I am shitting myself as to how I will pay for it all after losing my job last year and starting my own business, but all the advice I have had so far is that ” we can make it work, somehow”

    It’s all about attitude and being a father is the biggest responsibility of all. Thankyou again for the website I will be checking in along the way.

  29. mark on March 21st, 2010 at 6:50 pm

    ive been married for 5 weeks and my wife discovered yesterday morning that she is four weeks pregnant, must say that i’m over the moon and cant wait for this special journey to ride its course…..i’m sure its going to be a roller coaster but worth it….i’ll post more when i know more….

  30. Joseph R on May 23rd, 2010 at 8:18 pm

    I’m not married, but engaged. Wife to be is about 10 weeks pregnant, and we’re about to go for first scan. We’re 22 by the way.

    She’s had mild naseau and “icky” feelings, but apart from that no bad things. I cook 80 - 90% of the time anyway so we don’t need to worry about that bit at the end.

    Her parents found out, but we haven’t told mine yet, as we want to wait until after three months.

    Planning to stock up on pregnancy books after we have the first scan.

    We’re really excited and can’t wait to tell everyone. This has been a very useful site. Will keep coming back.

  31. Jody on June 9th, 2010 at 10:17 am

    I managed to get my wife pregnant just a few weeks after going off the pill on the honeymoon. She is 38 and we thought it would take time or maybe would never happen as we see many couples with a woman that age struggle with IVF etc. When I am writing this I am still a little cellshocked realising my life will never be the same again! We are going to wait telling people untill the end of the first trimester so Am am very happy this website gives me a chance to tell somebody.

  32. Rug on July 13th, 2010 at 7:04 pm

    Hiya folks.

    My girlfriend has been pregnant and we both have agreed to have it.

    We are very similar and we agree on all the things we want for family life.

    There is one big problem that I need help with.

    As I suspect is normal my pregnant girlfriend has grown one hell of a fiery temper and she goes off the hook. About stuff she doesnt even care about. She has made every effort to explain to me that she will be okay and that I shouldnt get worked up.

    My problem isnt with her its with myself. I cant stop myself arguing over things. Even when I dont care either. I am an extremely patiant and calm headed person but Im flippin out and when she describes how her pregnancy temper feels it sounds exactly the same as mine.

    0 to 10 in one second flat!!

    I dont get it!

    The other day we hadnt seen each other for 3 days cause shed been away photographing a wedding and I working. When I came back she was dressed up and it was clear she had made a massive effort. We went and had a meal and then went for a walk. She wondered why some gazebos keep you more cool then others.

    She thought it was a colour thing but I thought it was more about the material. she kept reiterating her point and i mine then in a second flat we were shouting are heads off and so angry. Its like all the mini things like that keep reappearing all at once when we argue about something new.

    Such a small thing to argue over we both are more mature then that.

    How can i learn to let things ride. I know she is pregnant and has hormones, i shouldnt have the same lol!

    HELP!

  33. www.mywifeispregnant.co.uk on July 15th, 2010 at 11:05 pm

    Hi Rug,

    Researchers of Queens university found that men also go through hormonal changes, Testosterone production level changes, Estrogen and coritiaol levels change in fathers to be. All these things accompanied with anxiety and excitement can result in behavior you described.

    Where possible speak to your girlfriend about it and ask her to be patient with you.

    Also feel free to vent any frustration here.

    let us know how you get on.

  34. RichardW on July 20th, 2010 at 7:10 am

    Married for 2 two years and moved into a new house 3 weeks ago and wouldn’t you know shes 5 weeks pregnant! I want to say I’m excited and smiling from ear to ear its what I expected. What I actually feel is nervous anticipation and a little bit of denial. I take it this is normal?

  35. Brendon on August 3rd, 2010 at 8:44 am

    Hi everyone - hot digity dam! Myyyyyy WIIIIIFFFFFEEE IIIIISSSSS PREEEGGGNNNAANNTT!!!!!! Just found out

  36. Matt on August 3rd, 2010 at 10:17 am

    Found out last night following 2 clear blue tests. We’re getting married on Sunday so its quite a hectic time at the moment and we had intended to start trying once we were on honeymoon at the end of the month. This has come as such a massive suprise but all the symtoms were there so at the same time I think we both had our suspichions. Missed period, tender breasts, ill 2 days in a row, we’ve no idea what to do now apart from visit the doctor again in a couple of weeks.
    Very very excited and not at all as scared as I thought I would be when I heard the words “I’m pregnant”
    I could tell the world, its going to be hell holding it back until after the 3month barrier.
    We’ve agreed not to let ANYONE know until then.

    I’ll be using this as a resource for sure, very helpful even just today.

    Cheers.

  37. Paul on August 26th, 2010 at 7:04 am

    To all you guys out there congrats. Yesterday at work got the call from the wife ,” know dont freak out but you know how I have been jusing you as a sperm cow , well you did it “. As I sit here and read all of you blogs I agree with all of you , yes I feel scared and yes I dont feel as exited as I thought I would . and when he said its like being out in the ocean and a wave is coming ,Hell no it’s like a tsunami .but what the hell it’s time to get the surf board out and see where this wave takes us .

  38. Paul on August 27th, 2010 at 4:32 am

    For months know we have been trying ,and I went along with it (why not it was fun).
    know after four blue test and three yeses and the the doc ’s thumbs up , all I feel is num, woke uup this morning thinking what am i getting my self into ,can i do this ,can I have a child that will look to me for answers. but then I read all your coments and it seems |I am not alone feeling like this ,and I should just in joy the ride and the new life that will be coming into both my and my wifes life .

    Like Matt I will be using this web page alot for the next nine months.
    GOOD LUCK GUYS .

  39. Stan on September 11th, 2010 at 9:04 am

    This is a cool experience to find this website. We are just 13 months married and my wife is 10 weeks pregnant. We both so excittted about it and can’t wait to have our own baby. I want a girl, she wants a boy.
    Anyway the coolest thing about this ive just begun to love her much more. I have tried to tke up the house choes and im gettig tired and bored. this is not the first time my ife getting pregnant, but the first time she miscarried, so this tie we’re playing very safe. most of the tims i’m on the internet im looking for infor of how to be a good dad, and staff about pregnancy… information is power. A part of me is scared…. Abiger part of me is so so so excited.
    IM GONNA BE A DADDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  40. Dave Sanderson on October 8th, 2010 at 10:51 pm

    Hi, my wife is two days late and has just found out from her 1st test she’s pregnant. I’m dancing on the ceiling but she is worried how she will cope with someone else depending on her. She has suffered from depression and is naturally worried about post natal depression but she’s in the system, so the support should be there for her. Basically, I reckon I am in the fastest Roller-coaster ride I have ever been on! Reality strikes! Still chuffed to bit though. She is already sensitive to Oily fish (I fed the dog some sardines earlier and she had to leave the kitchen). We’re doing another test on Sunday and, conveniently, she has a Doctors appointment on Tuesday. If anyone has a wife who has suffered from depression who could offer some advice, I’d appreciate it!

  41. Alex on December 1st, 2010 at 4:51 pm

    Ok so sh*$^%ng myself does not even come close. My wife and i have been married for 5 1/2 months and started to try for a baby 3 weeks ago. Found out yesterday that she is pregnant. Terror followed fast after the news. Fantastic news but it is mostly fear i am feeling.

    Bye bye motorbike, bye bye China at the end of next year, bye bye peace and quiet. Hello hormones, hello baby stuff…

    Strangely she is taking it far better than me. She is calm and relaxed as though nothing has changed she is comforting me, i wonder how long that will last.

    Congrats to all who have had the good news, we will get used to it won’t we?

  42. Ryan on February 22nd, 2011 at 4:08 pm

    Hi Guys,
    Its so great to know there is somewhere I can shout - MY WIFE IS PREGNANT!! We, as a lot of people on here seem to on here, are waiting til the twelve week mark just to be a bit more secure in telling people, but I can do it pretty much anonymously on here. It feel sso good to be able to tell someone, as I am over the moon happy, and its all I can think about!! Am i nervous? You bet your life I am , but also extremely excited! I am still just getting used to being married, and having children wasn’t something I had in my life plan until I met my wife. She thought the same thing when we met, it has just kind of grown on us over the years. But I tell you what, this child will feel more love in its life than any other child in history (I think we probably all think like that tho!!) I wouldn’t consider myself a natural father, but its something I am aching for now. I now believe men can be just as broody as women!!

    Thanks for listening, and good luck to all the expectant fathers out there!!

  43. Grant on February 28th, 2011 at 6:48 am

    I found out yesterday that my wife is pregnant and rather unnervingly, I’m feeling a bit void of feelings…but I’m not! I’ve had no overwhelming feeling of joy or terror, but I do know that I’m experiencing some emotion…I’m just not sure what!!!

    I think these blogs are amazing and I will be doing loads of reading here over the next few months and I can see it’s going to be very helpful! We have decided not to tell anyone til the 12 week scan is done, so at least reading everyones comments is going to be a bit like communication for me and maybe I won’t go crazy!

  44. Ted on May 3rd, 2011 at 11:37 am

    I could do with some advice please.

    My wife is 11.5 weeks gone, and we’re going for our first scan next week. I honestly cannot wait and am so excited about being a dad. my question isnt about the likely hood of birth defects or risks etc… assuming eveything is fine and she remains pregnant I would love some guidance on supporting my wife.

    We are extremely happily married but one of her key issues is she’s a control freak. This means that she wont stop cleaning and working flat out, she’s extremely hard on herself whenever she gets anything wrong and doesn’t give herself a break. On top of this, she refuses to admit she is hormonal at the moment so most things i do are wrong… but then if i leave her to it, she calms down and things are fine again. Christ, I’m sure this is every mans situation right, but its hard to live with. I would love her to relax into pregnancy and not worry about mundane things so much, but then I guess that would be changing her (which I guess you cant do, and obviously I dont want to change my lovely wife)….

    Maybe it will be different after the scan because right now she does’nt feel pregnant (except for the eating and the boobs and the tiredness… no morning sickness).

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated, though I accept this is probably so ordinary it’s boring.

    Thanks,
    Ted (Hammersmith)

  45. Pup on May 4th, 2011 at 7:40 am

    my wife was having what she thought was period pains and went to the doctor who told her she might be pregnant. she took a test the next day and in floods of tears realised she was pregnant. she burst in on me taking a crap to tell me! i started crying too. she could be up to five weeks pregnant. We thought we would wait a few more months as we have only been married a year. we didn’t think it would be this fast as many of our friends have been trying for a long time without success. we are so lucky and blessed but it has come as a shock and we need some time to adjust. i am afraid i won’t be a good dad, right now my wife is afraid of the changes her body is about to go through. i know my fears are normal but i am taking a long hard look at myself and trying to see myself through a child’s eyes. i know it is time to grow up but in some ways I still feel 19 even though I am over 30.
    Great to know there is a website like this though, somwhere where i can come to for support.

  46. richard on July 2nd, 2011 at 1:02 pm

    “MY WIFE IS PREGNANT” now that i have that off my chest :P this site is gona help soooooooo much

  47. MR on July 4th, 2011 at 3:13 am

    Found out today my wife is pregnant
    Been married about 8 months, I’m 29, my wife is 31
    We’re both doctors and we work in different parts of the country
    The news was a surprise as we hadnt planned her pregnancy and only had unprotected sex a handful of times in the last few weeks
    My first thoughts are concern about her health whilst she’s still living alone, how she’ll cope with morning sickness etc
    My next concerns are the financial implications, that i’ll prob have to start moonlighting on weekends to earn extra cash
    Then I guess I have selfish thoughts about our plans of travelling and going on adventures may not happen, especially our plans of living abroad for a few years
    I guess my thoughts are generally a series of different anxieties about my abiliity to provide for my family, to be successful, to have enough time for them outside of work, etc
    I am pretty excited about seeing what our child will look like as we both come from different ethnic backgrounds; I’m European, my wife is Indian. I imagine all my traits will be recessive and hers dominant
    Any way, thinks are about to change forever…

  48. Robert on August 3rd, 2011 at 9:02 pm

    Today is Wednesday and found out Monday my wife and I are having a kid. I am so scared! Any advise from anyone that can help me make it?

  49. Dave on August 12th, 2011 at 9:56 pm

    Embrace it pal. Enjoy it and most importantly remain supportive and don’t give away your fears to your partner….

  50. ASHISH GUATM on August 21st, 2011 at 12:28 pm

    hi
    my wife had a miscarriage 4 months before from that day we tried each and everything to have baby but yesterday my wife told me that she missed her first two days of periods.she is having some pain in her chest and feeling low.
    now somewhere am happy and some where scared to hell.i dnt know what happened to me from last nite till now i have read so many stuffs regarding pregnancy on internet and i called her so many times..she will going to have pregnancy test in morning please pray for us so that i will be a lucky father soon.

  51. ASHISH GUATM on August 22nd, 2011 at 5:27 am

    this is the most lukiest website for me…in morning at 5 am my wife told me that her pregnency result came psoitive .that moment was like a dream for me.that time i was wondering that am sleeping or its real.
    today am the most happiest man on earth ..now am a father.
    thanx

  52. Lungi on August 25th, 2011 at 12:57 pm

    My wife is 6 weeks pregnant, I am over the moon, aty the back of my mind I think about the very real possibility of losing the baby in these early stages after all this excitement. We are very comfortable financially at this point, but the thought does cross my mind every once in a while if it will always be like this what if I cannot afford to raise a family anymore?

  53. Doug on August 27th, 2011 at 10:08 pm

    My wife is throwing up and thinks she might be pregnant. It’s August 27th and we had sex the 20th and I’m 47 and she’s 40 and the Urologist said I have next to a 0% sperm count. Her Dr. took her off birth control b/c she was getting headaches and had a high Prollactin level. We want kids but we aren’t in the best shape $ or health wise. We need to get in shape and I need a better job. I don’t know what to do This was pretty unplanned and her parents are going to think it’s dangerous b/c she has health problems like high blood pressure and other stuff. We think it would be a joyful Miracle!

  54. Ameer on September 8th, 2011 at 8:24 pm

    hello!
    I `ve just found out my wife is pregnant,Been married 2 months ago ,I don`t know what to do,we `re living in differant countfies ,I am not able to bring her to Uk ,I still have some money pob,I am lost

  55. GB on September 14th, 2011 at 1:38 pm

    My wife and I have been trying for a baby since our wedding in June (we have been together for 13 years before marriage though!) and she has been using the home test strips for fun up to now. On Saturday she tried to convince me she could see a feint line, on Sunday I was beginning to imagine a feint line myself, and on Monday my eyes had gone a bit funny from staring at bits of cardboard too long - but on Tuesday, theres no mistaking it - a definate Pink hint!!! I am really pleased and so is my wife. It doesnt stop you worrying though about the other things though - health, money, time etc - even though we’ve been through them all already and decided that we can manage okay - still a bit scary though eh? A lot of responsibility is about to head our way and things will never be the same again. Cant Wait!!!

  56. warren on October 13th, 2011 at 11:31 pm

    Just found out my wife is pregnant! we been married close to 2 months this end October, The news was a surprise to both of us, equally freaked out , honestly we were thinking having a kid at least one year after marriage as we both work in different states and plus am away on biz trip, if fact i got the new when am away! that probably the only time we had unprotected sex just before I left to Middle East, Honestly am not sure what am feeling right now, as we are yet to settle down as married couples, and its scaring the crap outta me at the same time am blessed, as so many of my friends being trying for years to get a kid…… things are about to change and looks like we have to put our plans on hold

  57. mart on January 20th, 2012 at 1:27 pm

    found out my wife is pregnant yesterday, we were trying for a few months so delighted as we are both mid thirties. we made the mistake of frantically researching every aspect of the situation which resulted in her being overwhelmed by it all. Cue me to make her laugh and feel better about it. no problem with letting plans change, as I get a bit fed up of thinking “what do I want?”, so it’s really nice to have all previous experience turned upside down. all of a sudden, I’m quite happy to dispose of all the crap that’s lying round the house and have a perfect reason to do what is right. Maybe I’m in shock, but I’m not worried at the moment. Key point that the wife made was that one of two things will now definitely happen: 1: we’ll have a baby or 2: we’ll lose a baby. Either scary responsibility or heart wrenching trauma. all other aspects of my life seem to have paled into the background….

  58. ashish gautm on January 22nd, 2012 at 9:26 am

    hey on 21 aug i leave a reply to this forum ..u knw wot on 22 nd aug morning my wife wake me up at 5 am in the morning and she told me that she is pregnent …today i was just checking my bookmarks and i realized that i knw this forum…its 6 months now and she is in 7month now..we guys are realy happy u …may god bless all

  59. Walter on March 22nd, 2012 at 11:12 pm

    My wife and I have been married for two years next month. We had mentioned trying at the end of Summer, but it took one time and she is now prego! I was a bit shocked but not surprised and she was sort of lost not knowing how the rest of our lives would play out like. Now I’m just trying to get her the right help by taking her to the Doc, and making sure she takes her vitamins. She is still feeling a bit like this will change our lives and she won’t get to be free anymore. I feel bad for her but at the same time I realize that it takes two to tango. She wanted this as much as I did, but I guess when reality hits, the feelings change. I’m not sure how we are going to go through this journey since I’m a bit freaked out, but maybe it will be just fine.

  60. Adam on April 21st, 2012 at 8:44 pm

    My wife is pregnant! She felt a bit off during the week and couldnt remember if her period was due. I joked she should pick up a pregnancy test at the supermarket today and I guess that one has now backfired! We think she is about 4-5weeks and to be honest it hasnt really sunk in for both of us- and to be honest until we visit the doctors thsi week and were told by someone officially it and to be honest until we visit the doctors this week and were told by someone officially it proably wont. None of our friends have kids yet so we are a bit lost on how it all works…thus the internet trawl and thankfully finding this site.

    I didnt realise you cant tell everyone straight away either! I’m crap at keeping secret so i’ve already apologised for when I give the game away by saying ‘no wine for the missus’ or start talking about prams.

    We have been married for 7 months and it is happy surprise for us and we are now just keeping our fingers crossed everything goes well from here. I’ve been reading about the hormones kicking in and ill update more when she turns mental - im sure there will a few stories. The adventure begins…

  61. Pete on May 11th, 2012 at 10:46 pm

    I’ve just found out that my wife of 6 months is pregnant. We have been trying for the last few months however it still came as shock! I’m so unbelievably happy though as I have always wanted to be a Dad. It’s feels like I have even more of a bond with my wife now and I just want to tell everyone we’re expecting!! I can’t wait and keeping quiet is proving to be the hardest part… Roll on January 2013.

  62. Francisco on June 4th, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    My fiance and I found out we’re pregnant about a month ago, and I couldn’t be happier. This is my second child, so I’m not scared at all, of course taking into consideration that I had my first born when I was 22 and had no job, and still
    everything turned out fine helps. The thing is, this is my fiance’s first child and she is worried sick and has had a 180 degree change in her mood she gets annoyed when she starts feeling things like nausea and/or tired and I tell her its normal. I think I’m going to opt for staying quiet, jejeje.

    This site is awesome wish I had it 7 years ago. Good luck to all and press on through!!

  63. Jersey on July 5th, 2012 at 8:18 am

    Week 8

    Found out my wife was preggers 3 days before we got married !!! We wanted kids but not for a few years… I thought I would have time to read all the books and really plan before this all happened now I feel like I have a Final before I have even taken the class… What should I read, what should I expect… Merci de votre aide

  64. Olly on August 2nd, 2012 at 2:26 pm

    Just found out SWMBO is pregnant….at most 5 weeks, slightly shocked still, but have just cleared this evening so we can sit down and do the planning we said we would do once we found out. We have been not ‘trying’ but also not preventing for a few months.

    We are both happy, but need to plan things I think……

  65. Danny on August 9th, 2012 at 10:15 am

    I just found out the other day my wife is pregnant at a max 5 weeks, a little earlier than expected, I must say. We are both excited and my wife is starting to feel nausia and sickness, none the less we are very excited and can’t wait for the bundle of joy. So here we go on the roller coaster of life!!!

  66. Don on August 14th, 2012 at 7:43 pm

    We found out she is pregnant two weeks ago and waited to tell immediate family until the blood test confirming her pregnancy came back. We are going to wait until the 2nd trimester to tell everyone. We are so excited. It isn’t exactly a surprise, we had been trying, but we also just renewed our lease (1Br Condo in DC). This is making me stress out.

    Also my wife is a little bit of a hypochondriac and I think she is taking the symptoms to the extreme. I’m not trying to be insensitive but this is typical of her. Otherwise I would be concerned that something was wrong. All Day Every Day she is sick, and so tired she has already taken 3 days off just to rest. Is this normal or is she taking it a little far? I love her and couldn’t be happier, except I want her to enjoy this time too. Its only been 5 weeks so far, I hope it passes.

  67. Adrian on August 19th, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    Congratulations everyone! Me and my wife have been married for 2 years and 3 months. I am in the Air Force at tech school right now, but she lives hrs away in our home town so we visit each other every few weekends. We just found out she is pregnant. What is funny is I know the exact day and moment got her pregnant lol didn’t pull out. soooo excited and we are moving to Germany in October. was born on an air force base in Germany too I hate I can’t be at home to help her. We haven’t told anyone. She is going to the doctor next week. I think she will be at 5 or 6 weeks by that time. Should we tell one of our friends or family members so they can help her while I am training???

  68. Adrian on August 19th, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Darn this smart text! I meant to say She lives 3 hrs away. And I was born in Germany so it will be cool to have a kid there.

  69. kevin on August 26th, 2012 at 2:09 pm

    Dealing with a hormonal nutter.

    I’m at my wits end here – SWMBO is 8 weeks in, and it’s like someone has flicked the “insane bitch switch” to the on position.

    I reckon I’m fairly useful about the house, but recently anything I do is not up to scratch and anything I don’t do is a sign of my utter selfishness and lack of respect for her.

    SWMBO – Why is there a screwdriver sitting on the cooker?

    Me – I’m replacing the filter in the air vent.

    SWMBO – Why is it still there?

    Me – I need to grab pliers to remove the hood of the fan

    SWMBO – This is just typical of you, leaving everything at your arse and expecting me to clean up after you

    Me – Eh? I’m not finished yet, I just came out to get the pliers.

    SWMBO – great, more of your crap to clean up – I’m not your slave you know, this shows how little you care.

    Me – Honey, I’ll clean up when I’m done, it’ll take 5 mins, really.

    SWMBO – That’s you all over isn’t it, Jesus, you have no idea how lucky you are, no other woman would tolerate your shit. …..cue tears and sobbing.

    Me – (soothingly hugging and stroking head) it’s okay darling, I’m sorry (whilst wondering what I’m sorry for) Look, I’ll get you a cup of tea and move the screwdriver.

    SWMBO – THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH A F’ING SCREWDRIVER- I WISH YOU’D LISTEN TO ME!!!!!!!!

    Me- Erm…..????

    There are ten to twelve episodes similar to this every day.
    As far as I’ve been able to determine he best way to handle it as follows

    1. do not argue.
    2. accept responsibility
    3. never, never say “you’re being irrational”

    I really need some feedback from the experienced POV here.

    Each individual episode is amusing in retrospect – but the cumulative affect is making home life very unpleasent . It’s difficult to be supportive whilst wondering if Mrs Hyde is about make a reappearance.

    I’m looking forward to Monday, at least in work when people start screaming and swearing I understand why.

  70. Mercury Design on February 7th, 2013 at 4:39 pm

    Great Post….

  71. Vassilis on March 22nd, 2013 at 2:08 am

    WEEK 5.
    I found out 4 days ago my fiancé is pregnant. I am going crazy. I want to tell everybody but she told me not to until week 13. The first thing I did was take her to 4 hospitals and let her choose the one she feels more confortable with. It s an amazing feeling that I think as men we never really thought we would feel.
    GOOD LUCK TO EVERYBODY
    Looking forward for updates from everybody.

  72. Hoops on April 11th, 2013 at 5:44 pm

    Well within a month of trying to get pregnant, we are!! Oh my life, I’m not sure whether to tell anyone yet, but I needed to say something :) 4 weeks pregnant, due on 15th of December, 3 days before my own!! Gonna be interesting

  73. Al on April 18th, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Kevin, great post but a little scary!

    My wife’s pregnant according to he tests but no symptoms yet. I can’t wait for some of the stuff described above… We’ve been married 18 months and I was probably more keen to have children than my wife but it really has hit me like a freight train. Absolutely selfish but the reality of it is slowly sinking in. I’m sure I’ll get over this but I definitely did not anticipate feeling like I do. Roll on the amazing feelings, for now - whoa!

  74. Al on April 18th, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    Also does anyone have any recommendations for pregnancy books or reference info? Thanks

  75. Shad90237 on April 20th, 2013 at 11:10 pm

    Wayyyhayy I’m Going to be a DADDDY - great amazing news, but absoloutely bricking it at the same time. We’ve been married 18 months, and she is 6 weeks pregnant. Think after reading everyones posts its best to keep it low key until 12 weeks, but finding it very difficult to not shout it from the rooftops! Slightly worried about getting to the 12 weeks, but going to be strong for the missus whatever happens. Theres far too many scare stories around on the net, but think its important to stay strong and positive. massive kudos to Adrian’s post above - i can snap back when she annoys me so your post has taught me a thing or two. Anyway congratulations to the rest of you! Great website by the way . . .

  76. Shad90237 on April 20th, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    I meant Kevins post from Aug 26th 2012. Oops. . .

  77. Jon on April 28th, 2013 at 4:09 pm

    Kevin..
    I feel you man. My wife is doing the exact same thing. Apparently I’m to blame for anything at all that displeases her - & sometimes stuff she just plain makes up too. There’s no getting through to her either. It doesn’t seem to matter what I say to her when she starts because she seems to not even comprehend a word of mine. She just carries on reacting to a preconceived hypothetical conversation that she’s imagined. The scary thing is, it’s as though she actually switches reality off & truly believes that I’m saying something else.
    This morning she wanted to know why I hadn’t cleaned the bathroom (I had, it was spotless). She just flat out refused to believe me because she couldn’t smell the bleach. I to explain that I bought a different kind of cleaner that is less fumey because I’m not sure about the dangers of exposing her to strong chemicals & she yelled “LIES..!” “Why are such a liar?” “You never do anything, I do everything.. You’re selfish, you’re an arsehole!!”… etc..
    By now I can’t even get a word in. These kind of outburst happen a good few times every day so for a few days I’ve been trying to figure ways of somehow tuning her out but that’s next to impossible. But I found something today that really helps, it amuses me a lot. When she was yelling at me earlier, I knew she wasn’t prepared or even capable of listening to me so here’s what I tried.

    Kelly - “You’re a liar, a selfish arse hole”
    Me - “you’re a toaster lemon!”
    Kelly - “Stop lying, can smell you haven’t cleaned it”

    I’ll be honest - I almost burst out laughing but I’m glad I didn’t because now that I’ve found this game I need it to last - it’s the only way I’ll through these irrational attacks.
    Gently give it a go mate - it’s quite funny.
    Good luck
    Jon

  78. Billy on May 24th, 2013 at 9:31 pm

    Yeh baby….. Number 3 on the way!!

  79. Vice on May 30th, 2013 at 7:08 am

    So as you guys can probably guess I’m gonna be a daddy!
    Honestly don’t know if I’m ready or if my gf is either because we’ve only know each other for a short while now (2 months) . She was married once and says I remind her of all the good that she married for and none of the bad so I can see a future with her plus she does make me happy but we tend to bump heads from both being stubborn and it can be pretty intense..
    We both want this and have already talked about moving in and work/school things of that nature but i don’t know how to get in the mindset that I’m gonna be the main supporter of a family not just myself … I feel like everything happens for a reason and always say it, I just need some mental reinforcement guys

  80. Richard Lionheart on June 17th, 2013 at 4:54 am

    My wife also makes dookie in bed. The worst part about it is that when we wake up she blames it on me. I have had a couple of accidents in the past, but not while sleeping so I know its her. She doesnt believe me even though I explain to her that shes the pregnant one, not me and its nothing to be ashamed about. We have gotten into hige accidents over this.

    I make her do the laundry afterwards but she especially doesnt like it when I rub her nose in it. It worked with my female dog when she doodoo’d on the floor so i figured it would work on her. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Im tired of waking up in poo. I think she does it on purpose because she seems to wipe it in between my butt cheeks! This pregnancy thing is insane!

  81. Richard Lionheart on June 17th, 2013 at 4:56 am

    My wife also makes dookie in bed. The worst part about it is that when we wake up she blames it on me. I have had a couple of accidents in the past, but not while sleeping so I know its her. She doesnt believe me even though I explain to her that shes the pregnant one, not me and its nothing to be ashamed about. We have gotten into huge arguments over this.

    I make her do the laundry afterwards but she especially doesnt like it when I rub her nose in it. It worked with my female dog when she doodoo’d on the floor so i figured it would work on her. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Im tired of waking up in poo. I think she does it on purpose because she seems to wipe it in between my butt cheeks! This pregnancy thing is insane!

  82. Ken on June 28th, 2013 at 11:36 am

    Just found out 2 days ago my wife of 3.5 years is pregnant. It took us 2 years of trying, and I want this baby, yet I’m happy and terrified at the same time. I try to think of all the good things, but finances have always been a bit dicey. People tell me that we’ll manage and that there is no reasonable level of financial health that will make it easy. I guess we’ll find out. I love my wife and our baby that’s growing inside her. This is such a wonderful but frightening time.

  83. Jason on July 20th, 2013 at 9:08 am

    Excellent post Kevin, and I feel your pain.
    We got married 3 weeks ago and found out she was expecting the week after. All sounds very nice and romantic, but where the hell has my wife disappeared to?!

    I can’t fill a dishwasher right, I didn’t tidy something up and “I’m just seriously taking the piss”…every day there is something new that I didn’t realise I was so crap at…I’m learning to walk away and leave her to it but Kevin’s advice is spot on really…I need to admit I’m wrong, say sorry and never say she’s being irrational, over reacting and it’s ok because I know it’s just your hormones…I think I’m making things worse for myself by saying that one!

    Anyway, today’s another day…wish me luck, I hope I’m not too shit a husband today!

    Good luck fella’s…and btw, I’m over the moon about the baby!

  84. NEP on July 24th, 2013 at 10:59 pm

    married 11 months. been together nearly 7 years.
    bought our new house 3 weeks ago.

    my wife is a nutcase when she is not pregnant. she knows how to push my buttons and seemingly does it just for fun. i can only imagine what she will be like as the pregnancy progresses. she is already complaining more than usual. so far I have been accepting because her breasts have become even more succulent.
    we both have very high stress lives, and we enjoy the occasional beer and/or puff of herb to help unwind. her high stress life will continue and only become more so as she deals with being pregnant. i am afraid of what we are going to do now that she can’t drink/smoke. it’s going to be a madhouse. hopefully we can learn to adjust quickly because i want my wife raising this thing in the best possible environment (her body not under the very real physiological effects of stress.)

  85. america man on July 30th, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    this is insane. my wife (together 7 years, married 11 months) found out she was pregnant a few weeks ago. i told her about what i read and she assured me that she felt fine and that it would not happen to her. she even said that i could call her out if she started to act crazy so she could stop.

    well, she’s gone crazy. normally she is an inspiring woman with all that she takes on and does herself. now she is generally useless. after working all day she is too tired to go to the gym anymore, so she comes home and suddenly she has a second wind of energy to tell me all the things about our new house (1 month) that she hates, or what i could be doing better, etc. I ask her if she could help out (since I already went to the gym) by making dinner- she says she is too tired so i could go pick up some take-out for her instead. so i make dinner. she eats less than me so she finishes eating while i am still eating, leaves her plate, and goes to bed. so i get to put away her stuff, do the dishes, clean the house and set everything for the night. she will yell at me if i am doing this too loudly or need light from a room she is not in. the next morning she “apologizes” and says she will feel better and be better this day, but it’s just the same thing again.
    if i dare ever question her behavior, i am being insensitive, i dont understand, blah blah blah. i don’t understand what it’s like to come home, have dinner cooked for me, complain about everything, then go to bed while my partner cleans up after me? she’s right i dont understand what that’s like! i call her out on acting crazy (picking fights, crying, entertaining crazy thoughts about miscarriage and birth defects - like asking for me to come up with plans in case she miscarries - seriously?) and she says that she is not acting weird, that it is just me.

    i love my wife but i dont know this person. currently i love nothing about her except that she carries my child and our history together prior to the pregnancy. that may sound cold, but imagine if your partner started one day just coming home and sleeping, not speaking to you unless to tell you to do more chores (after you already do everything by yourself.) shes not the person i fell in love with. i have read that this is just “first trimester behavior”. … will my wife be back one day? do others experience this and get their wife back? or is this the start of her being a new person?

  86. Tahir Genc on August 9th, 2013 at 12:50 am

    My wife is on a holiday trip she calls me saying bebe I dnt want to tell u but I Havant started my period yet so this is me in the phone saying OMG ARE U SEROIS SO AM I BEENING A DAD she goes yes dady

    It’s only been 9 days she is making me go mad

  87. BESIME VE TAHIR on August 9th, 2013 at 1:04 am

    I love her so much my girl friend is pregrent and she is on holiday I just finded out now hope she will come back with a good tan and a good health for our baby

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